In Rational Behavioral Emotional Therapy, we define rational thoughts, appropriate feelings and affective behaviors as those that help the survival and happiness of humans. Here are the goals that virtually all beings of our species choose during their lives, continue the existence they are given at birth and try to continue life with reasonable happiness and relatively free of pain or discomfort.
- 1 Rationality vs. irrationality
- 2 Coping and attacking irrational beliefs
- 3 TREC therapy to practice
Rationality vs. Irrationality
When we say in a speech oriented to rational emotional therapy, that a person is rational, by common we mean that he has decided or chosen to live with happiness for certain reasons: Accept what really exists in the real world, try to live amicably in a social group, interact intimately with some members of your community, engage in productive and enjoyable work, participate in recreational companies chosen by selection. Irrationality or feeling and acting inappropriately consists in interfering without justification in someone's life or in causing unnecessary harm.
As we have commented previously, the TREC, argues that when people have emotional consequences, after an activating experience, the latter contributes to causing an emotional state, your belief system leads to activate certain emotions of pleasure or dislike, comfort or discomfort, malaise or well-being. For example, they feel depressed after being rejected by someone, rejection does not make them depressed, but their beliefs about this rejection lead directly to feelings of depression.
They tend first to have a set of rational beliefs that come from their basic value system, their desires and their preferences, since they want to remain alive, feel happy and gain acceptance from others, they will almost always find rejection, as, undesirable, They will conclude that: I do not like to see myself rejected, What a misfortune!
They usually also have a set of irrational beliefs, such as: I must be accepted by other people meaningful to me, I have to get what I want, and if I am rejected, it will be terrible, I will not be able to bear it. Rejection will make me a bad person, undesirable, with little value! Then they will feel depressed, self-deprecated. Their irrational beliefs almost invariably come from intensifying rational desires and preferences, making them absolute demands or demands.. With such beliefs, they no longer want to have what they want but they think, in a demanding way, that they should have it, so they will feel frustrated, depressed.
Coping and attack irrational beliefs
The Rational emotional therapist psychologists face and debate irrational beliefs of their patients, in a much more active and energetic way, they make their patients see that their philosophies are irrational and counterproductive, they explain how those beliefs create emotional disorders, they teach them how to attack them in the logical and empirical fields, they instruct them about The way to discard them. They help them uproot their irrationalities, motivating them to do emotional exercises and assigning tasks that serve to destroy their rigidly sustained ideas.
When we think, we also feel and act, when we feel, we simultaneously think and act and when we act, we think and feel.
To measure personality change, the TREC adopts a strict practical method: that of The goal of therapy is to help people be better and not just feel better. This means that patients not only have significant improvement in their symptoms and see themselves leading happy lives, but also experience profound philosophical changes in their attitudes towards themselves, towards others and towards the world around them and if they arise Whatever new harmful conditions, it is unlikely that it will seriously disrupt them.
TREC therapy to practice
Next, we share some of the steps of the TREC process, to minimize, diminish and even counteract irrational beliefs. It is worth mentioning that this is only a brief exercise to get an idea of what is being done in Psychotherapy.
- For about 10 minutes a day, remember some belief, irrational, limiting, rare idea that is causing you conflict, for example:
It is terrible to see me and feel rejected by someone.
- Use the logical method, to see if your hypothesis is consistent with your reality. You will also ask yourself several questions in order to face them and discuss them (discuss them).
Some questions you can ask yourself:
What am I telling myself?
What is the idea I want to face?
Is this hypothesis true of mine?
Then, try to give you an answer rationally, that is, based on reality and facts, rather than on your assumptions.
If any of your answers were, that this or that is true, then, ask yourself another question such as:
Where is the evidence that it is true? Or where is the evidence that it is not true?
Now, in case your belief is true, you can ask yourself another question:
What is the worst that could happen if ...?
For example, if a woman rejected me?
You might think: I would feel sad for a while ... but it wouldn't be terrible, I can find other opportunities and learn from my experiences, I will keep trying.
Try to ask yourself this method of questions, until you get sensible answers, this will lead you to feel better, maybe you experience somewhat unpleasant emotions, but not intense ones that cause you disorders in your life.